healing my all trauma

Here is all my study material which i used in healing my childhood trauma 

Attachment theory

Here is how people connect other people because of their childhood attachment style 

1. Secure attachment 

2. Anxious attachment 

3. Avoidance attachment 

4. Disorganised (fearful abuse) attachment 

Default mode 4 new beliefs

1. I accept people as they are i don't have any judgement of another soul they have right to full expression of their true self

2. I don't search mate for my unmeet need to be fulfilled which i didn't get in childhood 

3. I search for companion who can sustain with me in every stages of life and have good quality 

4. Trigger is my best friend to tell me forgive that part and beautiful grateful and connect to my highest self 

5. I don't want things from my partner in order to get what i didn't get from my parents I want safe and secure connection not anxious or avoidance 

6. My partner is not source of love and happiness but she is extention of that and I am extension of her love and happiness 

But our source of love and happiness is myself and herself. We are no dependent of to get love and happiness instead we add to each other 

my discipline life

Here is my daily discipline task 

1. Health 

#healthy food

#gym and sunlight 

#peacefull environment 

2. Wealth 

#building business 

# personal brand and social status 

# networking with people 

# build brand

# trading and investing 

3. Relationship 

# safe and secure connection 

# authenticity 

# respect 

# friendship 

# intimacy and love 

# relationship vision 

4. Curiosity 

# social skills 

# hobby 

5. Greater than life (spiritually)

# pranayam 

# meditation 

# yoga

# charity 

# satsanga 

# contentment 

# reading Shastra 

# spirit of enquiry 

6. Distraction eliminating 

# material distraction 

# emotional distraction 

# virtual distraction 

# environmental distraction 

# spiritual distraction 

7. Vision board 

# health 

# wealth 

# relationship 

# curiosity 

# distraction eliminating 

# spiritually 

Mask i wear and healing

There are many types of mask i weared 

Fear of failure 

Fear of rejection 

Fear of unworthy 

Fear of vulnerability 

Need for approval and love 

Fear of abandonment 

Fear of powerlessness 

Fear of not being good enough 

Trauma and emotional pain

Because of these fear and pain we develop mask below 20 protective mask

1. People pleasures mask

2. Perfectionist mask

3. Tough mask

4. Funny mask

5. Over achiever mask

6. Care taker mask

7. Rebel mask

8. Over confident mask

9. Silent and invisible mask

10. Agressive mask

11. Intellectual mask

12. Social butterfly mask

13. Romantic charmer mask

14. Spiritual helper mask 

15. Busy mask 

16. Stoic mask 

17. Victorious mask 

18 chameleon mask

19. Victim mask

20 overlay positive mask

1. Eating time

2. Talking to friends 

3. Study time

4. Talking to brother 

5. Talking to sister 

6. Talking to mother 

7. Talking to father 

8. Asking money time

9. Giving money time 

10. Bathroom time 

11. Outside from home

12. Talking about love and relationships 

13. When in bad situation 

14. When someone talking about my life

15. When doing what i hate

16. When simp abuse me 

17. When someone want me to tell clear 

18. When someone asking my time

19. 

Reflection feedback learning

Anxious attachment people 

Healthy people but not trusted 

Close trusted and healthy person 

Most comfortable and trusted person 

Fair weather people 

Toxic people 

list of things I am eliminating and keeping

Eliminating people 

1. Vikas

2. Deepak

3. Abhishek 

4.prabhat

Keep people 

1. Pradeep 

2. Gautam 

3. Rahul

4. Ankaj

5. Amit

Eliminating place 

1. 

Eliminating doing things 

Eliminating habits 

heart broken lesson

1. Asking money is red flag no matter what never give money until you have good physical intimacy in one year duration 

2. If she is avoiding you by giving you time 

It means she is in affairs with someone else 

3. If she is interested she will talk about you 

4. Don't be fucking desperate to her there is abundant girl like her

5. Be bad boy if you are hiding something hit it with conviction don't fear

I am not going to force you to choose me i you think you can do better elsewhere 

Move on

I am not going to hold you back life is too short to hang on to someone who isn't sure they want to stay or not

love

01/09/2025

Massage came

02/09/2025

Little conversation but her mobile hanging 

03/09/2025

Ask m no. And money 

04/09/2025

Avoiding 

dating related learning

1. Adjust your bio photo and compliment style time to time 

2. Don't send double massage continuous first see response of her

3. Don't be exact clear cut conversation girl like to enjoy playing games 

4 take 4 min time to reply of any girl

5. If girl like you then there is no hard problem 

6. Don't take seriously of massage of any girl they want shit test on you be playful give reply in Jokes 

7. If they are interested in you the they will lead conversation you just follow up

8. If they want your no then they will play game that they are going leaving or whatever 

9. What they are texting obeserb what intention behind it